Next Thursday my buddy Adam will be coming to LA from NYC to visit. Besides my mom, this will be my first real visitor who is in town simply to hang and enjoy the Cali sunshine.
My list of things to do with him keeps growing and we only have a little over a weekend to do it all. Anxious to show off my friends and have someone from back home see where I live and such.
He is a swell guy and it will feel so nice to have a friend here who has known me for more than a year. I anticipate laughter, adventures, and good talks.
Anyway, I have not been this excited in a while, so there!
"Good Friends Are Hard To Kill"
At the end of the day, after all of the stress and the doubt of being a 20 something, all I need is to know is I have a good friend who believes in me. Someone who (without genetic obligation) unconditionally cares about me and can remind me of all the wonderful things I forget about myself. A friend who has an open mind and can understand that we will not always see eye to eye, but understands how special it is when we do. How empathy, compassion and support are three things we can never have too much of. And someone who can tell me the gods honest truth while looking me straight in the eye, and does it thoughtfully. Has my best interest at heart when giving an opinion and advice.
A friend that I can share my incredibly embarrassing confessions with and would never judge me for them or use those confessions against me down the road.
Anyway it’s been wonderful and completely refreshing to have built a friendship like this — and effortlessly. I am happy to have it and trust in it.
Hope everyone has at least one person in their life similar to this. I have no idea how I would get through things without mine.
Sorry to get all mushy just felt like it needed to be said. I could go on for days about this topic, but I’ll conclude here.
LA is an … interesting town and having people to survive it with are priceless. Period.
Always makes me think of the title of a song from a buddy’s band back in high school that always stuck with me, “Good Friends Are Hard To Kill”.
They will always have your back.
Some friendship for thought
It’s currently 10:37pm in Los Angeles, CA on a Saturday and I have just gotten home from a lovely evening with my best friend in town. Now I need to admit up front, we didn’t leave a 10-block radius from our apartments and I was wearing flip-flops the entire night. But it ruled.
All we did for three hours was eat food, walk and have (what I like to call) “good talks.” And all of this came together last minute.
I know I have admitted that I have trouble with this city sometimes, but then I have nights like tonight with a friendship that was established in LA and I see the side I love. I think there’s something to be said for relationships that develop and grow the way this particular one has. Outside of where I met Jennie, there has been no obligation for us to be friends or remain as close as we are. We were once co-workers, but these days we are just two young ladies who connect. We are buds who can randomly meet up and have wonderful conversation about anything and just “get” each other. I will admit that before I moved out here I had kissed those kind of relationships goodbye — but years later I am still having nights like this. Nights where I walked away feeling like even if I am single and don’t have my “dream man” yet, I know that I still have all the basics down of how to develop a great friendship. How to earn someone’s trust and how to slowly open up in return. How to have an honest conversation. How to listen when someone needs your help — and offer thoughtful advice that is received without any accusations. We may not totally agree on every little thing, but I don’t have to just “tell her what she wants to hear” to get through the conversation. There’s real substance to these conversations. And encouragement? Holy moly! There’s so much encouragement going back and forth you could power the city of LA for week off of our support for one another. I am so incredibly proud of her and what she has accomplished with her career. She’s just the best.
As we get older and dynamics change, we figure out what we need from our interpersonal relationships — and tonight it was very clear I have all of those things in this particular one.
So I guess the point is, knowing I can be part of a friendship like this – and that there is someone who “gets me” is a comforting feeling. No matter what happens with my unnamed “dream man,” I know that I can still be 1 of 2 in a killer friendship.
And I must say… it’s a very satisfying feeling.
I hope you all have one friendship like this at some point in your life.