“Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That’s what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is.”—Jim Morrison (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
Deep in conversation about nonsense he abruptly turned to me and said, “you’re awesome” — and I was totally caught off-guard. I was caught off-guard because when I say we were talking about nonsense, we truly were. I think it was about our mutual history of dyeing our hair fun colors and sharing anecdotes about our experiences.
Anyway, it was nice and I wish people would do that more often.
There are those great conversations where you allow yourself to be honest. You’re honest with your friends, but most importantly, you’re honest with yourself. Sharing something you feel some doubt in and then having someone validate everything you have been afraid to share.
Your feelings, personal thoughts, and the uncertainty that has left you paralyzed from moving forward. You finally let it off your chest and it’s meet with, applause so to speak. Encouragement and support start to stream toward you and relief washes over. You feel elated in the purest sense.
It’s scary to have those conversations, but they will leave you feeling invincible.
I had one of those conversations yesterday and am thankful for it.
i sent you the message about the boy and him choosing another girl and i'd just like to say thank you. im definitely the type of person who cares too much to become so bitter they can push someone away. im at the point where i think if he doesn't want me then he's the one missing out. i shouldn't be sad over someone who isn't as into me as i am, or was, into them. thank you for helping me realize that.
So happy that was helpful. I hope you never forget it.
Helloo! The other day I was watching All Time Low videos on YouTube and there was this one Buzznet interview and the girl looked exactly like you! So I was wondering... was it you? With like orange-y hair and stuff? :) xx
I finally dove into Doe Eye today and I didn’t come up for air for over two hours.
I got lost in it.
I started with the older stuff and worked my way up to this year’s release*. This was the first song I heard (‘I Hate You’) and I instantly felt relief hearing her voice. Hearing the simplicity of these lyrics just made me feel comfort. Really this entire EP sounded familiar. Sometimes it’s scary how much we can all relate to one another, and the similar experiences we can have — especially in relationships. That’s one of the things I love about music. Very happy I finally put this on today. I needed it.
Gosh, it’s so great to have this at my fingertips.
*I really recommend listening to an artist that’s new to your lexicon this way if possible. Was really lovely to hear how things developed from release to release.
so there was this boy. we've talked everyday for about 5 months. we both liked each other a lot, but there was this other girl. she doesn't live around here, but he'd been talking to her a little bit before me. i told him id wait for him to decide what he wanted to do or who he wanted to be with. we'd been getting along really well lately, but about a week ago we got into a heated discussion & he told me he was choosing her. i dont know what to do, i just sort of feel lost & empty. please help.
I wish I had the solution, but I feel like what you’re “supposed to do” is now let go. It’s hard, and something my personal history shows I’m not very good at, but it’s the healthiest thing for you. I wish I could tell you I’ve been able to practice this advice in my own life, but I tend to care too much about people to become spiteful or angry enough to push them away.
To turn this into an empowering moment for you…
I hope you realize that if someone doesn’t want you, then guess what, they don’t get to have all of the incredible things you possess! Someday someone will — and it will be amazing.